Hello there, lovely ones,

To every mother reading this. To every woman who has mothered—in the traditional sense, and in all the ways love reaches far beyond biology.

To every woman who has nourished, guided, accepted, allowed.
Who has laughed in the kitchen and cried at the table.
Who has birthed life and midwifed death.

And to every daughter out there walking her momma home.

This one is for you.

My sister called me today on her way home from being with our momma at her memory care home.

We sat together over the phone remembering, sharing, feeling the sheer raw force of nature that is our mother.

Even here.
Even in this place called dementia.
Even where timelines blur and memories soften.

This extraordinary woman whose heart held space and held the line.
Who carried us and called us home.
Whose love shaped us, guided us, steadied us.

A queen. A warrior.
A mother. A woman. A wife.
The glue. The center. The one whose love continues in us, through us, and around us.

Who holds the family together in ways seen and unseen.
Who spends a lifetime pouring herself into the people around her.

And somewhere inside all of my love for my mother…
was my fear of losing her.

That’s what I brought with me into my conversation this week with my dear friend Byron Katie…

Katie is the creator of a practice she calls The Work. In our conversation, we explored a story I had been carrying around about my own mother – one I didn’t even fully realize was there. 

In not wanting her to suffer, I had been the one suffering. My mother wasn't lost. I was the one who couldn't see her.

That is the miracle of this work – self-inquiry.
Not that we fix anything. We simply see clearly.
And from that clarity, love has room to move.

I felt excited to see my mom again.

That’s what I’m learning lately:

So much can change when we meet one another with a little more curiosity and a little softer grip on the stories we’ve carried about them.

I shared the full conversation with Byron Katie in this week's video.

She guides me through The Work in real time, and the conversation opened something unexpected in me.

You can download Byron Katie's free Judge Your Neighbor worksheet at thework.com and try it for yourself.

Happy Mother's Day to every one of you. 

May you feel deeply loved today – and may you remember the ways you have loved others, too.

Sage 🪷